Lessons, musings and advice from the author of ‘The Life I Won’
So many women I meet are in pursuit of perfection. The perfect man. The perfect body. The perfect home. The perfect 7-figure business. The list goes on. But perfection does not exist, and it is foolish to strive for it.
I am not saying do nothing, you all know that I am a great believer in vision and goals. But perfection does not have to be the vision!
Think about it, what is perfect? Perfect is merely a word. If you look in the dictionary it means without fault, having all the required or desirable elements, as good as it is possible to be. This is great when you are creating a car engine because you want it to function perfectly.
YOU are NOT a car engine.
The word itself triggers feelings of inadequacy, leaving many women with self-worth and self-esteem issues. Enter the artist who wants to create the perfect painting, open to the critique of everyone who sees it. There is no wonder so many creative women suffer at a whole other level.
Recent research indicates that the pursuit of perfection is rising. The domination of social media and the instant image is leading the younger generation towards feelings of failure. Traditionally the image of ‘perfect’ has been associated with motivation and ambition and encouraged and praised, particularly in the business world. But measuring ourselves against unrealistic and often contrived role models is creating a world filled with people who want to be perfect and are constantly disappointed in themselves.
If perfect is merely a word, then you can choose to use a different one. Here is my suggestion…PROGRESS.
When you start to acknowledge progress over perfection, you can be kinder to yourself and feel more worthy. Here are my top tips to help you to change your mindset from perfection to progress.
When you are looking in the mirror and not loving what you see it is because you are comparing the unique and beautiful you to someone else and that is not attainable, because they are NOT you! The same applies to comparing your creative work to someone else’s, it is an unfair comparison because they do it their way and you do it yours and your way is unique to you.
Be OK with who you are and how you do things and stop trying to be perfect. Perfect is a big lie and massive illusion.
You are beautifully imperfect just the way you are.
Now, that is something that I can celebrate.