Lessons, musings and advice from the author of ‘The Life I Won’
We hit the start of a new year, a new relationship, a new job, a new business and feel motivated to do it better this time. Drawing on all our previous experience (failures and successes) the beginning of anything always feels like an opportunity to reinvent and refresh.
But how often do you end up making the same old mistakes or feeling like it’s Groundhog Day?
It’s the same with goal setting, we are in the second month of the year and everybody and their granny started the year by talking about setting goals and going for it in 2022.
But what if in February you still haven’t been able to get your goals written down?
Or maybe you have written them but don’t feel connected to them. You look at the piece of paper, the planner or diary and feel BLEURGH. It’s like someone else wrote them and you feel anxious and overwhelmed that everyone else is nailing it and shouting about success and you are still in the same place.
You are not alone, gorgeous, believe me. I have spoken to so many creative women this year so far who feel the same. So how do you manage to connect and feel motivated by your goals again?
It starts with connecting to YOU!
I am not being polite here; I genuinely want you to ask yourself that question right now.
Are you happy?
Are you doing the thing you love doing right now?
How much time are you investing in your own growth and development?
How happy is your relationship with yourself?
How busy are you?
What are the other relationships like in your life?
How much do you love your job or business?
How healthy are you?
How are you creatively expressing yourself?
There are a lot of questions there, I want you to answer all of them. How you feel and how you want to feel is everything. I set ‘Feel Goals’ with my clients, because it is just as important to know how you want to feel as it is to achieve the more tangible things such as money or other assets.
What is it that brings you joy?
How is that thing linked to your earnings?
What changes do you want to make in your life now to do this more often? If not now, when?
When you make money from the thing that brings you the most joy, it genuinely doesn’t feel like work. I can vouch for this as I am doing it right now in sharing what I know with you. I want you to imagine yourself creating a life filled with joy and feel it.
Stop for a moment and listen to the voice in your head that is telling you that you can’t, or you shouldn’t. Whose voice, is it? When you scroll on social media and compare yourself to others, how do you feel? What does this do to your self-worth?
Here are my suggestions for you to reconnect with who you are and what you really want:
My objective in writing this blog was to get those cogs whirring at a time when you may feel a little less overwhelmed than at the start of the year. Everyone launches into January with resolutions, goals, and big ideas. 80% of people have failed or given up by February. That is OK, but I don’t want you to take that lack of fight into the remainder of the year.
Find the fight, find the warrior, and bring her to the surface now.
You’ve got this creative lady, I see you.